It is high time we realize that self-love is the best kind of love. It’s essential that we learn to love ourselves before we can even start to properly and genuinely love other people. Loving and feeling good about ourselves improves our self-worth, and that alone can boost our self-esteem and confidence level. It has been found that seeing ourselves in a positive light helps us in various ways — it makes us more resilient, helps us accept failures and move on, lessens our anxiety levels, and aids in restricting the flow of cortisol – the stress hormone – in our blood. However, it is not possible to change our feelings about self-worth overnight. Despite a plethora of articles, videos, and other kinds of content available online or otherwise, it is hard to make it work in reality.
Find Out Your Strengths And Develop Them Further
Self-esteem is best built when you can show some real achievements in life. In order to do that, you need to first figure out what are you good at. Once you do so, you should keep developing your skills and embrace opportunities to accentuate them. For example, if you are good at sports, sign up for competitions and train further to increase your physical abilities. If you are good with computers, take professional training or if you are already working with it, upgrade your skills through online courses. Winning competitions, achieving something at work, or getting applauded by friends and family will help you boost your self-esteem.
Don’t Indulge In Self-Criticism; Instead, Have Self-Compassion
Often, when things go wrong and we feel dejected, we tend to criticize ourselves harshly. It is during times like these that our self-esteem is at its lowest and beating ourselves up will only lead us to a downward spiral. Since we are aiming to boost our self-esteem here, we should be compassionate instead of being too critical. Think of it this way: if a friend was feeling low and criticizing herself, what would you tell her? You would say, “Don’t be so hard on yourself!” So why can’t we do the same to ourselves? If we can though, it will help get rid of all the negative thoughts and help us be more kind to ourselves. Instead of damaging our self-esteem it will help build it up!
Accept Compliments Gracefully
When we are not sure of our worth, we are not comfortable with accepting compliments. Even if we need to hear those words of encouragement at that moment, we can’t be sure of it at that time. The best way to handle this situation is by tolerating compliments for a while, and instead of staying silent, force yourself to acknowledge the compliment by saying “Thank you” or “How kind of you”. Once you start accepting them, it will make you feel good, increase your self-worth, and can do wonders to your self-esteem as well.
Exercise When You Feel Low
Just as our bodies need a good workout routine to be fit, our minds need exercise, too. So when you feel low for some reason — for example, you have failed to get the promotion that you had wanted or your date went miserably — here is something you can do to make yourself feel better again. Write down all the qualities that you think you possess which could have gotten you to get that promotion or have your date like you. Once you are done, choose one of these qualities and write an essay on it. Mention why it is an important quality and why people might like you because of it in the future. Keep doing this whenever you feel low for a month. Express yourself through words, vent out frustrations, and list down things about yourself that you like.
Truth is, nothing comes easy. But if you are willing to put some hard work, then you are likely to achieve your goals faster than others. Self-esteem is all about healthier emotional habits. Developing and maintaining them over a certain period of time will help you grow and be more confident in your daily life. Beware though, terribly high self-esteem can often be the sign of narcissism and can be quite brittle. Hence, like all good things in life, having it in moderate quantity is good. You can never go wrong by being grounded, humble, or modest. Nourish your self-esteem but also value the people around you.