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The Art of Getting Over a Breakup: Five Ways to Motivate You to Move On

Belting The Script song “Six Degrees of Separation,” one can really say, “Yeah, been there, done that, but damn it hurts!”

Yes, everyone has been through a break up with all the mess that even a bottle of beer can’t heal your aching heart. And it’s true, breaking up with someone who has been in your life for a period of time is really painful and emotionally and mentally exhausting. It is difficult to carry on with your life knowing that the person you shared most with is no longer in your life. It takes time to process and to move on!

If you just went through a breakup, here are a few ways you can motivate yourself to get over your ex:

Have That Closure for Yourself

woman introspectingWhen experiencing heartache, the instinct is to isolate yourself, curl up in your bed, and try to avoid feeling that pain. But keep in mind you are human and that means you have to deal with pain. Don’t be afraid to vent. Find a trusted friend or a confidante. Talk about how much it hurts and anything that caused it.

Express yourself. If you wish to cry, cry a river. Feeling like screaming, then go on and do it! Do you want to hit something? Go ahead, find a punching bag. Closure doesn’t necessarily mean having to clear things up with your ex. You may just need to introspect over the whole relationship, let go of your pain and move on.

Forgive and Forget

Yes, you have to forgive. No one can really forgive that easily after a heart break but holding a grudge will do you no good at all. You are just going to hurt yourself even more. This is just not a mere forgiving, forgive yourself first and foremost and forgive your ex as well no matter whose fault is it. Your ex may have shattered your heart into pieces but choose to forgive.

It won’t be that easy but this is the first step since forgiving yourself and your ex will lead to forgetting. The reason why you might still be hurting is because you haven’t forgiven. So accept the fact that the relationship is over. Let it go and let your heart heal.

Remember the Purpose of Your Life

woman hiking on top of mountainMaybe you have forgotten that even before you and your ex became an item you had a goal. We’re pretty sure you had goals when you were single. But if you don’t have one, this is the best time to mull it over. Think of this, what is your purpose in life?

Make your broken heart a motivation for you to move forward to become the better version of you. Aim high and chase your dreams. Remember there will be a lot of people who will come to your life again and it is better to know that when the right person comes, you have worked on yourself and fulfilled your dreams.

Practice Good Habits and Rediscover Your Hobbies

Not because you are hurt the bottle of vodka will become your best friend. You can do better than that. Now that you have no one to talk over the phone until the wee hours of the night.It’s time to indulge in good habits such as hitting the hay early. Go for a long walk and enjoy nature. Breathe some fresh air and find something that can occupy your time. Didn’t you have any hobby before your ex started occupying your time? Well, this is the perfect time to rediscover it and enhance your craft. Who knows? Your hobby might be something that won’t only bring you joy, but bring you fortune too.

Learn from Your Heartbreak

smiling couple happyNothing is perfect and people change, learn from your own experience.Try to examine how and why things went wrong and what you can do better. Everything that started fine can go wrong. Introspect and look deep into that previous relationship. What was your fault? Why did it lead to a break up? Evaluate yourself and the relationship. Be honest with yourself. As humans, we commit mistakes. But that doesn’t mean we can’t change and be better when the right one comes along.

Breakups are inevitable and it doesn’t mean it’s always your fault. People leave for different reasons. And being heart broken is not a good reason not to try again. Maybe you have not met your perfect match yet that will stay with you forever. So keep your head held high, your soul mate may just be waiting for you around the corner.

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